Hubs said that to me on Friday night when we got home from an evening out.

I laughed and asked him if he really thought I was awesome.

He, of course, said yes. (what else can he say to a question like that?)

And then I asked if he really thought our life was awesome.

Again, he said yes, and compared his little saying to the more known, “Happy wife, happy life.”

I know it was a silly comment, but it still made me smile. After all, who doesn’t like being called “awesome?”

But it also got me thinking, as most things do.

Am I an awesome wife?

I think I have my moments…both good and bad.

For instance, I get up and make Wyatt’s lunch every day. For the past 4 days, I’ve also made breakfast. On Saturday I even got up early (well, earlier than Wyatt) and ran to the store to buy sausage because Wyatt had said the night before that biscuits and gravy sounded good…and we didn’t have any. Then I made breakfast and got Wyatt up at 10 so he could watch the show he likes. (Yes, my 23-year-old husband still gets up to watch a certain cartoon on Saturday, and yes, I love him for it.)

But on the other hand, I’m not so great at bedtime. I tend to talk as we lay in bed, keeping him up longer than he’d like to be. Usually, the sleepier he gets, the more quiet he gets, and since I’m not tired, I get annoyed. And then he falls asleep and I get grumpy. And then I sigh and roll over and huff and puff, and he tends to wake up. Not such a great wifely moment there.

And I’m also a bit slow getting ready, and a bit messy. (Ok, more than a bit on both of those things, though I do clean up the apartment daily.)

I sometimes make him go for walks with me even though I know he doesn’t like to walk or run “for no reason,” and I tend to want him to “entertain” me when he gets home work since I’m usually ready for some interaction by that point. (I try hard to let him just relax and eat dinner and watch TV, but sometimes, I can’t always contain myself.)

I also tend to ask him to do chores I don’t like to do, like unload the dishwasher.

But I guess the main question is what makes a good wife, or an awesome wife. And I’m not sure. Before we got married, I had this huge hunger to learn to be a good wife. And while I still don’t know exactly what to do and not do, I think I’m doing a pretty good job of figuring out my role. Still, I’m not sure what makes the difference between being a good wife and an awesome wife. I mean, in life and school, I was never one to settle for “just good.” I strived to be the best I could at whatever I did.

I haven’t really thought about if I could be doing more as a wife. I was just concerned with doing regular “wife things,” and being a wife at all, to worry about being the best wife I can be. And it’s not that I think I’m doing a bad job, I’m just re-evaluating whether I’m doing a good job or a great job.

I guess I’m talking about attitude and motivation. (Aren’t those always the things to work on?)

What about you? Do you try to be the best wife you can? What does that look like? Have you found your husband knows when you are trying “harder?”  Does he respond accordingly?