Baby Fever…or not

By | August 27, 2012

Well guys, it’s that time.

No, not time for chocolate cake in the middle of the day.

Though I wish it was that time.

And no, not time to start my Christmas shopping.

It’s also not the time to tell you about my secret pet peeve of people spelling “gray” as “grey.”

It’s the time that all my friends and family who got married about the same time as Wyatt and I start having babies.

Woohoo!

It’s like we all have baby fever.

Except that I don’t.

I mean, I’m super excited for all of their babies to come.

But I’m not ready yet.

Although, I guess, who’s ever really ready, huh?

Anyway, I’m just happy with Hubs right now. We have enough trouble trying to keep on track to work on stuff around our house, figure out how to avoid having the same fights all the time, learn how to balance a budget and visit all the friends and family that we wish we could see more often.

Throw a baby in there and all that stuff that seemed hard before now seems nearly impossible.

I mean, I want a baby. I really am excited for that time in our lives. And I know that every time I see a baby or hold a baby or buy a present for a friend’s baby, I tell Hubs how much I really and truly do want a baby. But then, he looks at me with that look that says, we’ve been through this, and I just give up, because I know he’s right.

It’s like I just sway back and forth between really really wanting a baby and really really freaking out at how weird/hard/scary/expensive it would be to have one.

And like the great man he is, Hubs just calmly stays quiet, gently pulling me away when I stop to swoon over a pair of teeny tiny baby shoes or plan what color I want the nursery.

Did your uterus just skip a beat? Mine did.

Don’t you want to have a baby just to have this in your house?

And this?

But he’s gentle and firm as he says, “not yet,” to me every time I get ahead of myself.

What a good man he is!

(But I knew that already.)

What about you? Are you baby-crazy, too?

 

12 thoughts on “Baby Fever…or not

  1. nwbnstr

    I’m the same way!! We don’t get married for over a year and a half, so no babies for a while for me either. We have a lot of friends that are having babies though, so I have a hard time looking at all of the sweet baby things we buy as gifts and holding little tiny cute babies without wanting want SO badly!

    Reply
  2. Whitney M.

    I easily fall pray to baby fever. I’ve always loved babies. In fact I know a girl who got married the day before me and she is already 19 weeks pregnant and due in January! However now would just be a terrible time. I still have 8 months of nursing school left. The husband and I talk about it frequently and sometimes we get weak kneed (thank goodness that birth control allows no spir of the moment decisions) and then we come to our senses and realize that sticking to our plan is important. We both need full time jobs. Period. It would just not be fair to a child at this point either. So until that time comes I just try to remember that it just won’t be me and the boy forever than that I should just soak him up while I can still be selfish 🙂

    Reply
    1. melissashipman Post author

      It’s hard to wait, for sure, but good point about not making rash decisions. That is a must! It’s not a whim–it’s a major life choice! And go ahead and be selfish. I’m trying to use that mindset, too!

      Reply
  3. casey thompson

    Better to be married for a bit before you introduce a child. Get used to each other first. Being able to read each other well is critical for surviving parenthood.

    Reply
  4. Laura

    I definitely have had the baby bug recently!! We will hit our one year anniversary next month and having just turned 30 my biological clock is ticking away! But since I just finished my degree a few months ago and am still looking for a better job than what I have, along with my husband having a job with crazy hours, we know that as much as we want to it is just not the right time financially/job wise. We know we want to be able to provide the best possible for our child and right now is just not that time! So for now I just cuddle all my friends babies and wait for when the time is right for us to have our own little one!

    Reply
  5. thefunkyjunkie

    Sometimes I worry that I’m the only one who has NOT been struck by baby fever….in any way, shape, or form haha. Now we have reached the point where everyone is starting to ask and it kind of freaks me out. Ian feels the same way, so luckily we are on the same page with that. Enjoy your time together without anyone else to worry about!!

    Reply
  6. Katy@Our Simple Love Story

    We have been married almost five years with no baby. I think it’s only been the last year that I’ve heard the faint ticking sound of the bio clock. It happens when I hold certain babies, one in particular, that I have just bonded with. I want a baby, but I want to make sure that it’s the right choice for our family, and sometimes it’s hard to differentiate between the bio clock ticking and the pressure of the people around us (not that they are pressuring, but you know, when there are 25 babies born in one year at your church, well, that’s a little pressure, you know?)

    Reply

Join in with a comment! (Let's all agree to be constructive here, okay? Thanks!)